“Sometimes — You’ll Surprise Yourself”
My Mom had a wonderful insight. She shared it with me once, and it’s come back to me many times in the twenty years since she’s passed from this physical realm.
“Honey, you think you know yourself. You think you know how you’ll react in a certain situation.”
“But sometimes — you’ll surprise yourself!” (with how you react)
I thought of Mom recently, when, again, I found my reaction to a certain situation unsettling!
“I’m losing it right now!!! What’s wrong with me?????”
Yet when I find myself “surprising myself”, miffed at my own reactions — I think of Mom, and marvel at her wisdom.
I look up, and say, “Well Mom, you’re right. I certainly am surprising myself right now!”
And somehow, just the act of making that statement, taking that pause, that self-reflection — helps!
Just knowing that she warned me. That she left me with her sage reflections.
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Steps to Stop the Downfall . . .
So here are my Strategies that seem to help curtail the downfall of my emotions:
1.) Rather than judge and self-condemn — adding to my anxiety or fear . . .
2.) Stop! Step outside of my emotional response, and (again) recognize my human foibles. (See my Runaway (Emotional) Emergency Escape Ramp.)
3.) Accept my human faults and frailties — even laugh!!! :)) Crazy-drama me :)) (See my previous post, Crazy-Drama Syndrome.)
4.) Do my best to re-focus, and move on.
5.) Take a deep breath, and let it all go . . .
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Thank you, Mom, for leaving me with your words of wisdom.
Thank you for preparing me for the moments I feel out of control.
May I look to what I’ve learned in dealing with my foibles — lessons honed from a Life filled with HORSES! (See my post, Ride Life! The Reins . . . )
May I strive to be the best version of Dawn I can possibly be.
And, hopefully, Mom, you’ll look out from where you are now — and see me — and smile :))
DawnSeeker
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Photos: by DawnSeeker
Vintage Photo: Grandfather’s archive (courtesy of Cousin Andy :))
Wise mom and wise daughter! This is a wonderful strategy for life! Thanks!
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Thank you, Linda. Ironically, another “surprise” happened just this evening, hours after posting this. So I just pulled up my Emergency (Emotional) Escape Ramp post, read it over, and I’m watching its cooling, soothing effect, right now. Hurray :)) Best to you :))
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how true, our mums (as Kiwis call their mothers) are always with us 🙂 My mama has a sixth sense, I always remember that. I’m thankful she taught us to heed our gut feelings or sixth sense. Thanks
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So fantastic, and great to hear from you :)) Thank heavens for the wisdom our elders showed and shared with us. My Mom referred to that sixth sense voice as “Birdie”. “Your Birdie voice will tell you what to do,” she would say. Lovely to say, I talked with my own daughter yesterday, and told her the same thing :)) The best thing is, I know her Birdie will — and I know she will listen. Please take care, Pam ~ Dawn
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THat’s lovely Dawn …. my mum used to refer to birds as ‘birdie’ too … but she would say ‘an inner voice just kept telling me ….’. She declined an ear op for my brother in the era you didn’t do that (’40s) as doctors knew best … turns out it was as well she did as he would’ve gone deaf. Very reliable that little birdie 🙂 You take care too Dawn x
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Yes — Very, very wise. Thank heavens we were taught to listen!
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Thank you for sharing that, Pam. I think we don’t talk enough about that wise, inner Birdie voice, and how listening to it has changed our lives. I’m not sure if you’ve read my Miracle Book post, but that’s a big theme there. Recounting all my miracles, blessings, and near misses. It bolsters faith.
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Wonderful advice. My mother was not great on advice, but I picked up two wisdom sources along the way in life. One is “Play the moment, not the result,” and the other is “Bless it and be on your way.” Sending you lots of love.
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Beautiful! Yes, yes, yes to both :))
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Appreciate you sharing your mom’s and your own insight into ourselves. Very helpful, indeed!
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Thanks Michael — I just visited your site and realized I was not following (corrected that!) Great photos and insights there. Love your giant hibiscus flowers :)) I got a lovely shot of one very similar on Molokai, Hawaii. Best to you, and enjoy those special moments Summer brings — Dawn
(My flower shot is in this post :)) https://soulhorseride.wordpress.com/2015/09/09/aria-coming-together/
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I remember being bombarded by that old adage in my youth and could never come to terms with it. Of everyone you might know yourself the best, but there are always a few surprises – good and bad.
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So true! Love your work, Graham. Enjoy your summer :)) We are going horseback riding today :)) :)) :))
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Love this!!! Why are we so much harder on ourselves over minor flaws sometimes than we would be anyone else? God loves us in all our quirky, surprising ways!
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So true — Glad you’re back to blogging :)) it seems an easier outlet to integrate online outreach and interaction into normal, everyday living. I’ve only had good experiences with readers and comments here on WordPress.
I think you’ll like this one, too: https://journalofdawn.wordpress.com/2017/07/28/but-do-you-ever-feel-like-a-fake/
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Wise words from a wise mother. Good to be back here, I am reading up on your posts now 🙂 (I’ve been away for too long).
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