But . . . do you ever feel like a Fake?
Life presents us with such beautiful challenges.
We start out young. Eager.
“You can do it! You can do ANYTHING!”
(Hopefully we are encouraged by our elders . . . I was :)) Read my Dad’s philosophy on Life and success here: You Can Do ANYTHING! )
So we set out in Life.
We Fake it Til we Make it :))
We search for an interest, a spark.
For something that stands out from all the other options . . .
What on Earth do I want to do???
(Remember the faces of these little 1950’s kids: What will they grow up to do?)
And how do I make that pay, so that I can live and eat and drive a car and . . . find my true love. And marry.
“Happily Ever After . . . ” Remember?
Easy vs. Rough
Yet, some sections of what Life dishes us, appear easier than others.
Sometimes the sun seems to shine through every opportunity, like a perpetual Spring. Early morning in July. What could possibly go wrong???
Then the seasonal job ends. The funding dries up. Then comes Summer’s heat. Winter’s cold. Snow. Ice . . .
Some pockets of Life are rough, tough, and downright depressing.
Yet our job is to keep getting back up. Dust off our knee.
Keep learning. Searching. Trying . . .
One day, we’ll get “there”, right?
Feeling Like a Fake
One of the observations I’ve made over my years, has been a nagging inner doubt — feeling like a fake. A fraud — even after years of schooling; training; success. Even after countless volumes of productive accomplishment.
(Yet I’m not a fake! Honest!!! Even if a small part of me still thinks I need to stomp my foot and glare to get you to believe me:))
One of the things that helped me deal with this, was reading about a very accomplished woman who confessed in her autobiography that she felt the same way.
The gal was a high-falutin Wall Street financial analyst with all kinds of fancy training and university degrees. She had years and years of experience. She was legit and fit for her work as anyone on Earth possibly could be.
Yet she and I shared something in common.
Despite her all training, experience, expertise . . .
Sometimes, she felt like a fake!!!
I remember thinking about her description over and over.
It went something like: “I find myself sitting at the conference table with all these men, looking at me, wanting to know what I think. And I look at the pages of graphs, charts, and numbers in front of me, and I think, ‘Why are you looking at me??? What do you think I know???‘”
And I wondered: Is it just women who feel fake in the “Real World”? Or do all humans suffer from this, from time to time.
Maybe it’s a human trait . . . to doubt ourselves.
And I’m human, remember?
So maybe I’m normal after all :))
And maybe I’m not really a fake . . .
And maybe I am really well suited for what I do.
It Will All Work Out :))
And this has helped me over the years. When I come to an obstacle in my work, in my Life. I tell myself: “I really can get through this. I really can figure this out.”
So I wanted to post this for you younger people out there. Who are struggling.
As a reminder from one who’s gone a similar Life path before.
Your Life will all work out :))
(See: Will it All Work Out???)
Be the best person that you can.
Make the very best decisions you know how.
Get back up, dust off your knee when you fall down.
Apologize to those you hurt.
Try, try, try again.
A different approach. A fresh angle . . .
Keep adjusting. Keep trying.
Pray, keep the faith, look up.
And you will get “there”.
The road is long. Hot. Rough.
But you are tough.
And in this Life of yours, you are not a fake.
You are a rich, complex creature. A human!
And you truly can do ANYTHING!!!
(See: “You Can Do Anything!”, great advice from my Dad.)
Now look, again, at the family photo of these kids.
The kids in this photo will go on to have many future accomplishments:
(At least one) self-made multi-millionaire; three pilots; Tom Petty’s recording engineer/co-producer; several accomplished musicians; several entrepreneur-artists; Getty Museum Gallery Instructor; CPA; Speech Pathologist; two horse endurance trail riders/breeders; and a farrier (horseshoer). All successful. Rich in Life’s adventures. How about that!!!
(Grandma would be proud! See: You Gotta Wanna)
Just remember, when you look at what seems like a dumb little kid, you could be looking at the next ________________ (Elvis, Elan, Edison, Einstein :))
Because if we’re human, we can do what humans do.
We can do ANYTHING!!!
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Grandfather’s vintage family photos courtesy of Cousin Andy